A Question For Conservatives

The Supreme Court will rule on marriage equality soon.  I want to ask people who still oppose gay marriage: Why?  Why do you oppose it?  How do you view marriage?  The arguments before the Court seemed to focus on procreation, and I've seen letters to the editor ranting "It's not about love!" 

Really?  Really?

Modern marriage IS about love.  If you ask people why they married their spouse, if you look at popular culture, if you listen to wedding ceremonies, if you watch people court- it is about love.  If you want to change that, you're the radical.  If it's only about kids... You know, a lot of people do have kids while married.  Many have them outside marriage, or don't have them at all.  The center of the relationship, though, is the other person- supporting them, caring about them, loving them, enjoying being with them.  If you have kids too, great.  If not, great.  Some people can't have kids.  Some bring them into a marriage.  So they're certainly a topic when marriage comes up, but a tangential one, not the central one.  And hey, if having kids is the main thing about marriage for you, fine!  That works- for you.  Actually, if that's the main thing, and loving your partner isn't as important, I feel sorry for you.  If love isn't important to you, I think you will be unhappy.  But do your thing.  What gives you the right to decide what other peoples' marriage should be about?  And how does other people loving each other affect your marriage?  

Strong, loving, committed relationships actually support raising a kid well.  Not just "having a mother and a father," but having people who care about each other and the kids.  If you say you want strong families, and kids raised in a stable environment, then I would think you would be in favor of anything that provides for loving, committed relationships.  There are plenty of gay people who want kids (and plenty of straight people who don't.)  Adoption, artificial insemination, however they do it- a loving couple who really wants a kid is going to do their best to raise it well.  A straight couple who don't like each other but "stay together for the children" are going to do more harm than good.

I don't see any point to the procreation argument.  Another big one is religion- "God invented marriage."  Well... No.  But hey, if you believe that, cool.  Get married in a church.  Follow your religion's guidelines on marriage.  Live by it.  Do not make others live by your religion.  Ask yourself (because I will not ask politely) why you feel the need to force your religion on other people?  Marriages are now sanctioned by the state- your officiant, even if they're a minister, still has to sign the license.

Seriously- tell me why you oppose gay marriage being legal.  In America.  Which is not a Christian nation, or officially religious at all.  Tell me why you feel the need to impose your belief that marriage should be loveless and religious on others.  Because it sounds to me an awful lot like you want a theocracy with women being baby factories.