Sunday, November 29, 2015

Drumroll, please...

Through the wonders of modern technology, Miss Mox and I recently found out what color baby clothes we need to buy:

Pink.

Yes, we are progressive, and this kid will get to be whoever she wants, but when she's little she will definitely be dressing up in "traditional" colors for awhile.  Of course, Miss Mox is not a girly girl and I am not a Jersey Shore macho idiot, so that's about as far as gender roles will go.  She can play with dolls or bulldozers, or both, or neither.  She will definitely be read to, and hopefully be a voracious reader like her parents.  She will watch sports with her mom, go to air museums with her dad, play with animals and eat good food.  When she grows up she can be whatever she wants.  We are parsing out which physical characteristics we hope she has, but we know she will be stubborn and will be a smartass because those genes seem to be dominant in our families.  Hopefully we can handle those two qualities...

We have a name picked out, and the room that will be hers was already painted purple.  We have lots to do around the house, and lots of mental prep because HOLY CRAP WE'LL BE PARENTS SOON!  Luckily we have family and friends to help.

Seeing the sex, and that she is healthy, on the ultrasound was supercool.  We are lucky to live in an era of advanced medicine, and to have many good doctors and facilities nearby (plus, of course, good insurance.)  We do worry about her health (and mine- I already creak when I bend down and try to stand up...)  We worry about money, and schools, and safety.  But we are in a good situation, and I know Miss Mox is a great partner- in life, and parenting.  Another adventure...



Sunday, November 22, 2015

Non Sequitur

"It does not follow."  Congrats to the Republicans for yet another inappropriate response.  Radicals in Paris kill people, and you decide to ban Syrian refugees from coming here. Those refugees are fleeing Syria, fleeing the violence caused by ISIS.  In what alternate reality does it make sense to turn them away?  Just like attacking Iraq because of 9/11- one does not follow from the other.  Please, explain the connections, in detail.  After the horrible attacks in Paris, here's what the French are doing: accepting more refugees. They understand what is going on over there.  We don't.  Cue blaming the French for being victims, and calling them weak.  Of course, that has probably already started...

The French are attacking ISIS too, bombing in Syria and hitting extremist cells throughout Europe.  France is not weak.  The French are way tougher than they are given credit for.  I've seen the police in Paris- you don't want to piss them off.  And the French military has been strong for centuries.  Remember when they helped us win our Revolution?  Remember theirs, and Napoleon?  Yes, they were in bad shape after years of trench warfare in WW1, and got rolled over quickly at the start of WW2, but so did pretty much everyone else.  If the U.S. had had to fight Germany in 1940 we would have lost too.  Given the chance, though, the French recovered, and fought well till the end of the war.  Since then, they have been strong (even if they sometimes stay out of situations where there is no need to fight- something we could learn a bit about...)

As for ISIS, they are awful people.  We need to fight them (and we are, and have been,) not those who are trying to get away from them.  I still call them ISIS; I'm just used to it.  But I love that others use “Daesh,” an Arabic abbreviation, because apparently it pisses the militants off.  And I like ISIL, since it is more descriptive, and tweaks conservatives with no knowledge of history or geography.

Look- there is risk anywhere, anytime.  The risk from accepting Syrian refugees is incredibly low.  The risk from traveling, to France anyway, is very low.  (Syria... I'm going to wait awhile.)  I am much more worried about being attacked by a disgruntled ex-employee where I work.  Or a paranoid, ignorant current employee.  The day after the Paris attacks, I was talking with a coworker about security at the plant.  Our company increased security after 9/11; I doubt anyone could get in undetected.  I feel pretty safe there.  This guy does not.  He said “What about the ones that are already here?”  I was confused for a minute; did he mean refugees, or even terrorists, already in the U.S.?  Nope, he meant Muslims working at our company.  For real?  That is his worry?  That Ahmed, who has been there two years and who I have had great conversations with about politics and, more often, food, is going to turn out to be a terrorist?  That Muammar, who prays five times a day and is the friendliest person you'll ever meet, is somehow violent?  I worry more about the guy who asked the question: a disheveled gun-nut, who is afraid of something he knows nothing about, is well-armed, and is always negative, whether he's talking about work, the weather, his wife, whatever.

Things happen in the world.  We need to react to them by using reason, not emotion.  Facts, not soundbites from Fox.  What happened in Paris was awful, and its consequences are playing out right now.  Something bad will happen next week, and next year.  We need to remember that we are people, and not animals- lashing out at refugees because you don't like them will not prevent the real terrorists from doing something else.  Stop being afraid.  Keep living life as it should be lived.



Sunday, November 15, 2015

To The Left, Quick March

Now, I know the name of this blog makes people think I'm liberal.  And I am, on many issues, but I'm conservative on plenty; and I'm not far-left on the majority of issues.  I know, I know, Ronald Reagan is now considered a socialist apostate by "true conservatives," so even if I was to the right of him I'd be considered a liberal.  But I consider myself a slightly-left-leaning moderate, and an independent voter.  I research all the candidates, and all the arguments for issues, before deciding.  I hate party-line voting, and those little flyers with all the candidates for a particular party.  I like it when politicians, on either side, go against the "true believers" once in awhile.  I like talking to people who actually think about issues, and have nuanced views, and are aware that there can be multiple "right" ways of looking at things.

I'd be more conservative if the conservatives were more reasonable, more fact-based.  The crazier mainstream conservatives get, the more I lean left.  The fact that Donald Trump is considered a viable Republican candidate says something about where conservatives stand right now.  Obama and Clinton are moderates, which is obvious when you watch what they say and do.  That they are considered screaming liberals by conservatives says something about how far the right has moved over the last few decades.

Here's where I stand on a few issues.  Again, definitely left-leaning, but overall still moderate.

Abortion- It should be safe, legal, and rare.  I don't think anyone wants more abortions.  But to say that it should be illegal even in cases of rape, incest, or threats to the mother's health is as abhorrent to me as, say, China's old one-child policy.  There is a middle ground, and it is roughly where we are now, with legal abortion but also plenty of sex ed and contraception available so that there are as few as possible.  Of course, Republicans want to get rid of sex ed and contraception, so, hm...

Environment- I am glad that we are (slowly) moving toward renewable power.  We have a long way to go, and in the meantime we need to use oil, coal, and nuclear power to get by.  But subsidies for those dirty forms of energy should be gradually reduced, as we increase subsidies for renewables till they can stand on their own to supply more of our needs.  This, along with climate change, is a national security issue, so you would think conservatives would support these changes.  But no, they want cheap gas no matter the cost to health (and to human lives, here and abroad.)

Gun control- Again, I figure we are close to where we need to be.  I don't think all guns should be confiscated; there are very few people who want to do that, despite the fear-mongering of gun nuts.  I think almost anyone should be able to get, well, almost anything.  But there should be registration, people with violent criminal records or severe mental health issues should not be allowed to buy guns, everyone should go through a background check, and everyone should go through long training courses.  I see this as a common sense position.  The fact that some people think it is not says more about their state of mind than mine.

Regulation- "That government is best which governs least."  But exactly what that "least" is may not be clear, and certainly it doesn't mean "not at all."  We need regulations, for safety and health and to keep people's greed from letting them take advantage of others by, I don't know, reselling junk bonds.  I don't want any more regulation than necessary, but I know how important regulation is.  Aviation, highways, food, etc.- sometimes things need to be tightly regulated.  You would think conservatives, with their fetish for law and order, would understand stuff like this.  But, nope.

Religion- Freedom of religion is a cornerstone of our democracy, and is in the first amendment to the Constitution.  But freedom to practice your religion does not mean that everyone has to follow it.  Worship as you wish, and live by your religion.  Don't try to impose it on others.  One of the amazing things about American democracy is that we don't have an official religion. The Founders made sure of it.  Please respect their judgment.

War- I support some interventions abroad.  I also support the troops during and after, unlike many Republicans, who cut funding for the VA, etc., but want more and more spending for military hardware and more and more military adventures any time someone looks at us sideways. I don't think we should get involved everywhere, but there are times and places where we need to defend our interests, or where we have the ability to help (for example, in Indonesia and Haiti.)

Welfare- Most people on welfare, food stamps, etc., need it, only use it briefly, and are working while they use it.  Don't call them lazy, or act like you don't know how much getting rid of it would hurt kids and the elderly.  Yes, I think anyone who can work should work, on or off of welfare.  And there is a little fraud, but don't throw the baby out with the bathwater- work to get rid of the fraud and make the system better. Should we get rid of the military because there is fraud?  Or insurance?  Of course not- you fix the problem, without destroying the necessary part.

Well.  That's just a few issues, but you can get some idea of where I stand.  Am I a bleeding-heart liberal?  Middle of the road?  Let me know.  Of course, if you call me a libtard you will get blocked immediately, for a couple of reasons, but other than that I do want to hear what you think.






Sunday, November 8, 2015

Wait, What Did He Say?

Song lyrics are sometimes suggestive, or people think they are (like "Louie Louie.")  I am always amused by the double entendres in some songs, and I guess I better get this out of my system before we have a kid running around listening to everything...



Robert Johnson- Phonograph Blues

Going more or less chronologically, this is the earliest recorded one that I know of, though I'm sure there are many earlier suggestive songs.




Lil Johnson- Get 'Em From The Peanut Man

Just heard this the other day on the radio, and it inspired me to put these together.




Aerosmith- Big Ten Inch

Originally a blues song by Bull Moose Jackson, this got a lot of airplay when Aerosmith covered it.




AC/DC- Big Balls

Also much-played, this one is, well, more lascivious than most.




Denise LaSalle- Lick It Before You Stick It

Hardly even suggestive, this just comes out and says it...

Sunday, November 1, 2015

A Time For Every Purpose

My company wants me to work more.  It's an interesting job, and I have a lot to learn, and some of it just can't be done during a regular workday, when we're doing the normal routine and putting out fires.  I'm trying to get them to teach me some stuff during the shift, during slow times, but it's not happening often.  I don't mind a little more overtime, but I do not want to live there.  When I took the job I knew there'd be a little overtime, but they said I wouldn't have to come in all the time.  Of course now they're pushing for more and more.

My job is not my life.  I have a life, and lots to do.  I have a wife/friend/partner-in-crime who I can't wait to get home to.  I, and we, have stuff to do on weekends.  We have a kid on the way, and I want to give him or her as much time as possible.  Working more gets me more money (and we have plenty of baby things to spend money on,) but money is not everything.  Time is money, and I don't have enough time.   Money comes and goes; time just goes.  After my grandparents died a while back I started thinking about my own mortality.  I wish they were still here, and want to make the time I have as good as I can.  Then when I lost my dad too young, and then my brother far too young...  Life is short, no matter how much time you have.  Even if you have 90 years, that's not enough.  You need to enjoy life while you can.  Appreciate the small things, make time for them and the big things, and find a balance between work and other necessary tasks, and the really important stuff.